Get Clear, Get What You Want

Until you commit your goals to paper, you have intentions that are seeds without soil. – Anonymous The mind loves clarity. Without clarity the mind – actually, our emotions – reverts to safety. Safety, for our emotional brain (the limbic system), is habit and routines and whatever has been shown to contribute to our survival (even if…

What We Do To…

In Life there’s what we (really) want and what we do to keep it out of our lives. Yes, you read that correctly. We keep what we want out of our lives by what we do. And what we have in our lives is a perfect reflection of what we’ve done. *  *  * It’s…

The (Seeming) Power of Habits

Habits are powerful, generally hidden, drivers of behavior. My basic understanding of habits is that there’s a cue, a response and a reward (or result) (that is seen as desirable and/or functional). Many habits are not, actually, good for us, and/or those around us. *  *  * A question some coaches (myself included) like to ask…

Variations on Gratitude

Today is the day in the USA when we give thanks. When we show appreciation for all we have. (Unfortunately many (lately) see this day as a day to buy more stuff . . . ) In the true spirit of the day, I offer you some thoughts and quotes. *  *  * Gratitude is up…

The Master Skill

As a human being* with both a cerebral** and a limbic*** brain, the ability to accurately, and resourcefully, interpret and assign meaning to events and circumstance may well be the master skill of living well. *  *  * How do you interpret and understand your life? Its events and results and your thoughts and feelings?…

The Three Ds

Discern. Distinguish. Decide. Just three words, but they are such powerful words. Mastering the true meanings of these words will have a huge impact of anyone’s life. What do these words mean? Discern Discernment is both the ability to aware of something and place it in context. The first part is awareness: you must have…

The Lesson

Every calamity is a spur and a valuable hint. – Emerson In every experience there are two questions one can ask: #1 – Is there a lesson in this? #2 – What’s the lesson in this? Just asking Question One is a great step. A wonderful sign of willingness. Asking Question Two is what all happy,…