My Goals – My Resolve

ByMatthew

“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs” – James Allen

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What must I believe about myself to perpetuate my current conditions?

What must I believe about myself to create the conditions I desire?

What is the disconnect between the conditions I say I want, and the conditions I create?

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I create according to my beliefs about what is safe and functional.

If what I am experiencing and what I say I want are different, there must be a disconnect between my stated desires and my deeply held beliefs.

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What do I want more than what I say I want?

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The above is an e-mail I sent myself the other day.

I had the idea that maybe I wasn’t the only who sometimes has trouble achieving goals so I though I’d share.

I invite you to look carefully at the language above.*

It all started with a quote from James Allen, but it grew into (for me) a powerful set of questions that have 1) put me on notice that I have some things to figure out and 2) that I have some work to do.

What about you?

What do you take away?

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* Especially the last bolded sentence. In future posts I will be exploring Kegan and Lahey’s work on Immunity to Change (which for me is very powerful/attractive explanation for why we don’t do what we say we need to do).

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