If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. – Maya Angelou
Complaining is a prayer for what you don’t want.
Whatever we focus on expands; so if you’re complaining, you’re expanding what you don’t want (or what you say you don’t want . . . ).
So, if you don’t like something, either:
1) figure out how to change it; or
2) change how you look at it (change what it means to you).
I don’t normally include whole posts from other folks, but when I do, it’s generally from Seth Godin (Steve Chandler being the other common exception) (and this one is short… ). The below reminds me of Carol Dweck‘s amazing work on Mindset. According to Dweck there are some who believe that the gifts and talents…
Laws control the lesser man . . . . Right conduct controls the greater one. – Mark Twain Someone with a strong character needs no external guide or precepts to determine behavior. Where do you look for guidance? Do you consult “laws” to see what’s acceptable? Or do you consult your ethics to see what’s…
Which one is stronger? Either can overpower the other. This afternoon I didn’t feel like going to the gym. But I hadn’t been since Saturday and my commitment to going three-to-four days per week was in serious jeopardy of being violated. So I went to the gym and worked out. Commitment > Mood.
Everything in the world we want to do or get done, we must do with and through people. – Earl Nightingale We often get confused about things “work.” So often we think we have to have all the answers and all the know-how and all the resources (often before we even start . . ….
There are, broadly speaking, three kinds of “dependent:” co-, in- and inter-. One is clearly undesirable, another is sometimes okay and a third (understood properly) is clearly superior. Which do you think is which? I’ll take them in order. Co-dependent: being co-dependent means you not only are not divorced from your personal power, but your…