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Sometimes A Leap is Required

Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith. – Margaret Shepherd

Where do you want to be?

Who do you want to be?

To get there, or be that person, you must be willing to let go of the comfort and security of the known.

But . . .

I’m not suggesting facing-the-fear-and-doing-it anyway.

I’m asking you to search yourself for what is truly compelling and attractive about what it is you want.

Allow the authentic desire of what you truly want be the fuel for your leap.

And then, jump . . .

Manage Well Your Attachments

If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. – Albert Einstein

Attachments, as any Buddhist will tell you, are – at the very least – problematic.

So, if you’re going to hang your “future hat” on anything, hang it on a goal.

(Not people as they are just as (if not more) variable as you are and not things as they will (almost) always disappoint you.)

Or, I submit, hang it on what you want to create.

Creating something is much better than a (mere) goal.

They may well be the same when viewed from 10,000 feet, but they are quite different on-the-ground.

When you’re creating you’re in tune with the rhythm of life and nature.

Both your body and soul want to create, give them what they want and your energy will be off the charts.*

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* Yes, goals can energize, but creating inspires.

Beyond Command-and-Control

I’ve included a blog post from Seth Godin (in its entirety, at the bottom) to get you thinking.

Please read Seth’s words below and rejoin me for a couple questions.

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You’re back?

Great!

If you invoke the Platinum Rule (treat others as they would like to be treated… ), which approach (or in Seth’s parlance, “strategies”) would the people in your life prefer?

Would they want to managed for efficiency and productivity, or encouraged to do their best work?

Would they want to be convinced, or worse, manipulated, into doing what you want? Or would they rather be invited to collaborate in a decision, whether it be where to have dinner or where to live?

Ask yourself, ask your Soul which you rather do . . .

Ask yourself who you’d rather be in those moments.

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Nature and nurture (professional edition)

The boss, conference organizer, co-worker, interviewer, parent or client who wants your best work, your art and your genuine enthusiasm:

…can demand that you bring your best possible work the first time, can point out that they are paying you well, that they’re busy, that they’re powerful, and that they accept nothing short of high performance or you’re out.

…or they can nurture you, encourage you, set a high bar and then support you on your way. They can teach you, cajole you and introduce you to others that will do the same.

The first strategy is the factory mindset, of interchangeable parts and interchangeable people. It is the strategy of ensuring six sigma perfection, on demand, and the strategy of someone in power, who can demand what he wants, when he wants it.

You don’t make art this way, or emotional connections, or things that haven’t been made before. You may get the job done, but it’s not clear if you’ll make a difference.

Click here to read the original post.

A Re-Definition of “The Skills”

We hear a lot about soft skills (emotional intelligence (EI) and the like). I’ve always been a bit bothered by the characterization of such vital skills as “soft.”

With the exception of such things as pillows and the like, “soft” is a pejorative – especially for men.

I’m here to shift that.

From now on, let’s call “hard” skills (computer skills, business analysis, calculus, etc.) as enabling skills. In that they enable us to do things – things that if we didn’t have the (hard) skill, simply wouldn’t happen.

And instead of calling inter- and intra-personal skills “soft,” let’s refer to them as differentiating skills.

I know that’s a bit of a mouthful, but wide-ranging command of the EI skills is what differentiates an individual – at the workplace, at home and within one’s own private universe of thought and being.

Both types of skills are necessary, but over- or under-development or reliance on one type will hinder all sorts of things: career/business development, personal development and the continued cultivation of happiness and fulfillment.

Commit to understanding the hard skills you need for success in your chosen pursuits, whether they be personal or professional (and developing them over time) and make it a priority to develop your inner capacities and resources which will serve you well in every area of your life.

Who Deserves Love?

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. – Buddha

I have recently begun to think a great deal about what we deserve.

I had gone back-and-forth in my mind of how to make the case that we deserve love,* and safety,* and peace,* but struggled a bit with the word “deserve.”

Thanks Buddha for clearing it up. . . .

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* And more, much, much more.