You. Must. Start.

“I must learn to love the fool in me—the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also…

How you see yourself determines what you’ll do. How clearly you see what you want to do determines what you’ll accomplish. Your self-concept and beliefs about what you think you can and can’t do and so important to what you’ll even attempt. If you don’t think you’re worthy or capable you won’t even start. And,…

I’m not sure if it is a word, or even if it could be a word, but I want to offer you the option of “pre-ponding.” There’s responding and reacting (and there’s over-responding and over-reacting, but those options are for another post… ), and there is pro-acting. I want to create a distinction between pro-acting…

Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities. – Aldous Huxley Success, like happiness, is not something to achieved or arrived at. It’s not a destination, it’s more of a by-product. To use the example of a tree, Success isn’t the leaves of the tree, or…

Hurt people, hurt people. That’s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion and cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault.  Love is the weapon of the future. – Yehuda Berg [Note: what follows might…

I was recently asked “What does coaching have to say about dealing with emotional responses when trying to transition away from old habits?” Below (while I realize now it doesn’t really answer the question fully/directly) is what I wrote in response. Whether or not it’s a complete or elegant answer to the original question, I…