As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do. – Andrew Carnegie Recently I wrote: Talk is cheap, but action is priceless. What we say (/think) matters to what we do, but what do is what really matters. What are you doing, that doesn’t serve you?…

I just read an article about how a woman (after her children were grown) was questioning her choice to leave full-time work and be a Stay-at-Home-Mom. What I found interesting, was, not the social and cultural questions surrounding the topic specifically, but how it starkly illustrated something that shows up in many ways. Part of…

If you care enough for a result, you will most certainly attain it. – William James I had a powerful conversation with my coach recently and one of the things we talked about was “cares.” Another word would be priorities. What I’m talking about is the difference between what we say we want (fantasies, desires,…

Whenever something isn’t ideal it’s an opportunity to learn, and grow. When you’re willing to inquire, to dive deep, you will solve long-standing problems, heal old wounds and spark growth. But you have to be willing to pause and ask: “What’s really going on here?” For example, when someone is late, why are they late?…

I recently read a post on Johnny B. Truant’s blog that really hit home. So much so that I wanted to do two things: share it with my readers and 2) think on and write about each piece of his post. The post is “20 Truths About Life No One Wants To Believe” and the next one…

Everyone (in self-help and related fields), it seems, talks about “loving-what-you-do.” And how they have the formula/process/program/book to help you do it. It’s bad advice and a disservice to promise such. Putting aside my theory about how purpose is not outside us and nothing we need discover or create (it’s within and covered by by “crap”)…

We say we want things, but there’s a way to determine what we really want. Look at what we have. Whatever it is we are creating in our lives is what we want. *  *  * That said, in the absence of clear and authentic desires and goals, we have a default want. One that…