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The Difficulty, and Necessity, of Change

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. – George Bernard Shaw

What you believe is so important to what you can, and actually will, do.

And what you actually do (truly) creates your life.

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I find it curious that people seem to think that thinking isn’t action.

As if moving our bodies is the only action?

Thinking is indeed movement, it’s electrical and chemical activity.

Not that thinking is a substitute for taking physical action, it’s not.

Only that how and what we think is vitally, and just as, important as what actually do.

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“Thinking” is our minute-by-minute thoughts, our beliefs and the values we hold.

None of it is accidental (although it can be hidden or veiled at times).

To the extent that we periodically examine our results against the thinking that always creates them, we can create better results.

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The truth is that change is hard because a powerful, ancient part of our brain abhors change. So much so that it will choose the status quo, even if it really doesn’t serve us, or our goals.

Long-time reader of this blog know I have written a great deal about how our limbic (emotional) brain favors “what-works/the-familiar” over the unknown (even if the status quo sucks, and a potential future is worlds better).

Suffice it to say, here, that change is hard (for knowable reasons) and that flexible thinking and a willingness to change is necessary to create a better future.

 

The First Thing

One is dependent on the outside world to the extent that they believe what they need is outside themselves. If you are sufficiently in touch with your core power and peace there is nothing that anyone can deny that will hurt or upset you. The first, and most important thing, is to renew that connection and live from it (not scheme how to get what you want from the Outside).

What do you think?

It’s something I thought of while having my morning smoothie the other day.

Obviously, I believe strongly that what – and who – we are comes from within.

And we don’t need anything from the outside to be okay, or amazingly powerful, effective, kind and loving.

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I once heard a story of a martial arts master who was asked by a student “how do you stay balanced all the time?”

His answer: “I am not balanced all the time, I am continually getting knocked off balance, I’ve just made it a practice to keep returning to balance.”

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That’s how I approach the paragraph at the beginning of this post: I am continually* returning to, and living from, my core, my true essence.

The more I do that, the better I get at the returning to it, and the more time I spend there.

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* Or at least doing my best to do so.

How To Win

I try to do the right thing at the right time. They may just be little things, but usually they make the difference between winning and losing. – Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Excellence is doing the right things.

Wisdom is doing them them at the right time.

Practice is how both happen.

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The little things are what makes up practice.

And the little things are what make big things.

Who Should You Be?

Stop aspiring to be anyone other than your own best self: for only that falls within your control. – Epictetus

One of the biggest realizations one can have is that focusing on what you control, to the exclusion of that which you can’t, is the best thing you can do to be productive, well-compensated, peaceful and happy.

To the extent you give energy to things beyond your control, you suffer.

It’s that simple.

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The greatest, and wisest, aspiration you can have to be the best version yourself.

The version that learns from the past, dreams to the future and focuses on acting in the present.

Be that you.

In All Starts Inside

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama)

You can never love anyone more than you love yourself.

You can never be happier than you think you deserve.

You can never earn more than you think you’re worth.

Whatever measure, metric, quality or state-of-being you can name, you must have it within before you can: experience it externally, give it to another or share it with someone else.

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Conversely, what’s inside you will come out when you’re stressed and under pressure.