• Three Power Questions

    As a coach I love questions. In fact, questions are coaching. It’s the willingness for the coach to be open to asking and not knowing that allows for the client to create their own answers – and the actions that follow. Here are three of my favorites: What do I really want? When you take the time to…

  • The Nature of Desires

    Aren’t desires bad? Don’t desires lead to suffering? Isn’t that what Buddha would say? If I recall, Buddha would say that cravings and attachments lead to suffering. Desires are a natural part of life. Properly understood* desires are healthy. Authentic** desires are healthy. *  *  * * To properly understand your desires you must know yourself,…

  • Where Fear Comes From

    Fear comes from the future, and discouragement comes from the past. Both obsessions are linear mistakes. – Steve Chandler The mistake we make with time is that we think it’s a linear progression, with a now and two “thens” (past and future) and all the points in-between. It’s not that. It’s just not. There is…

  • When We Die

    What happens when we die? I really don’t know. But I do know what happens when we stop living while we’re alive. We enjoy less, accomplish less and regret more. The cure is being present and aware. That’s how to live while you’re alive.

  • What Is Success?

    Success is a skill. It’s not something we arrive at, or get, or have bestowed upon us or finally possess. It’s something that must be developed, over time, and continually re-made and renewed. It’s what we choose to think. It’s how we choose to think. Are we choosing useful and constructive thoughts? Are we meditating and…