Category: Blog

Ya Gotta Stretch Yo Self

Any person who selects a goal in life which can be fully achieved, has already defined his own limitations. – Cavett Robert

In many respects its better to set a goal and fail to achieve it fully, than to accomplish exactly what you set out to do.

The latter means you didn’t stretch yourself.

And it’s likely you didn’t grow in the process.

Sometimes small goals are good.

Like adopting a new daily practice (especially replacing a non-resourceful one).

But a well-lived life is a combination of many small victories and a few massive reaches.

It is the goals/victories that put us in a growth mindset; constantly producing proof that change is possible.

But we also have to do things that scare us, that make us grow, that require new skills and abilities.

Otherwise, our world constricts and even though we think we’re being bold, we’re really just creating a slightly larger/different safe space.

Ya gotta stretch yo self!

The Necessity of Nature

Wilderness is not a luxury, but a necessity of the human spirit. – Edward Abbey

You are not made of metal or plastic.

You are made of nature.

You must regularly, and consciously, return to nature to renew your connection to what you are.

Nurture your spirit with what it is – be in nature.

Choose Joy

We cannot cure the world of sorrows, but we can choose to live in joy. – Joseph Campbell

But remember, you can cure your world of some sorrows.

And you can always choose joy.

If sorrow creeps in, as it will, meet it with humanity, let it visit for a time and choose again.

Choose joy.

Choose Fear

Every time we choose safety, we reinforce fear. – Cheri Huber

Huh? Has Matt gone mad!?

Nope, just wanted to get your attention.

Now that, I hope, I have it, I’ll make my point.

When we choose the safe and known over what we fear (and “fear” includes: merely being uncomfortable, a little anxious, a touch nervous), we make that fear stronger.

Particularly in what we say to ourselves about how strong we are.

We can say we’re strong and brave, and perhaps in certain extraordinary situation we can/will be, but the vast majority of life is lived in the normal, the mundane, the ordinary.

And when we shrink from minor little fears we choose to not strengthen our bravery.

We get weaker.

The truth is there is no stasis.

We are either growing or shrinking, getting stronger or weaker.

Grow.

Get stronger.

Choose (to face your) fears – especially the small ones.

Where Does Destiny Lie?

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves. – William Shakespeare

So many people put the power for what happens to them outside themselves.

What’s more they think that their lives are determined by some fuzzy thing called fate. Fate being the amalgamation of other people’s decisions, the vagaries of the economy and politics and some mysterious force that lies beyond the physical world.

Are there things you can’t control, that impact your life? Absolutely.

Is there a way to make things go just as you wish? Nope.

What you can do, however, is significant.

And to not do all the things you can is truly one of life’s tragedies.

So much of your “destiny” lies within the things you can 1) control and 2) influence.

When you understand what lies within those two categories, and what is beyond them, you can get busy taking action to do what you can and influence where you might.

The true magic of life isn’t in some amorphous thing called fate, but in all you can do when you realize and act on the power that lies within us all.