Character vs. Reputation

Everyone (in self-help and related fields), it seems, talks about “loving-what-you-do.” And how they have the formula/process/program/book to help you do it. It’s bad advice and a disservice to promise such. Putting aside my theory about how purpose is not outside us and nothing we need discover or create (it’s within and covered by by “crap”)…

Does the way you use language build you up, does it remind you of your strengths and potential, or does it subtly, gradually, break you down? Do you say “Sorry,” “It’s no big deal,” or any number of subtle ‘diminshers?’ Don’t think it matters? Don’t think the words you speak, internally and externally, impact your…

For 99% of us, 99% of the time (and these percentages might be low… ), our true nature is wellness and wholeness. Whenever we are not feeling that, we have “distracted” or “diverted” ourselves from this place of calm, wise knowing and perfect health.* One of the master skills of living is to notice any…

Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself. – Ancient Chinese Proverb As a coach this is something that I occasionally encounter: working with a client who says they want to change, but doesn’t take action (or takes incomplete action). It’s important to understand that change is hard. We are genetically programmed to avoid…

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. – Willie Nelson You can’t eliminate thought. Thought can be quieted and calmed, made more orderly and useful, but it can’t be turned off. Understanding this a key to using thought more resourcefully. I say that because when people hear about “positive…

No great thing is created suddenly. – Epictetus It can seem that way, but that’s not how it works. Anything takes time, great or not. To paraphrase Earl Nightingale, the time is going to pass anyway, why not do something towards greatness – it takes time after all.