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The Unlived Life

If the unexamined life is not worth living, . . . it’s equally true that the unlived life is not worth examining. – Parker Palmer

This quote pretty much speaks for itself.

Yes, we must examine our lives, and ourselves, continually throughout our lives, but that’s only half of what’s necessary.

We must have a life worthy of examination.

A life where we are getting better, using our experiences as learning material.

Lives where we set goals and sometimes “fail” to meet them, but learn more about the goal, the world and ourselves in the process.

Live a life that you both love and love examining – one that you enjoy in-the-moment and later, in brief and regular retrospect.

Want To Be Miserable?

If you want to be miserable, get yourself a future. – Byron Katie

There’s a difference between dreaming, goal-setting and planning for the future and being stuck there.*

Which are you doing?

How’s it going?

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* Nothing happens in the future, only in the Now.

Glow in the Dark

Sometimes Seth Godin puts out something so good I need to share it with you, in its entirety:

Some people are able to reflect the light that lands on them, to take directions or assets or energy and focus it where it needs to be focused. This is a really valuable skill.

Even more valuable, though, is the person who glows in the dark. Not reflecting energy, but creating it. Not redirecting urgencies but generating them. The glow in the dark colleague is able to restart momentum, even when everyone else is ready to give up.

At the other end of the spectrum (ahem) is the black hole. All the energy and all the urgency merely disappears.

Your glow in the dark colleague knows that recharging is eventually necessary, but for now, it’s okay that there’s not a lot of light. The glow is enough.

The Power of Your W.O.B.

Huh?

What’s a W.O.B. you may ask?

It’s something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

W.O.B. stands for Way of Being (WOB).

It’s a catch-all term for how you think, feel and act.

And it’s so vitally important.

I’ll be writing more about this in the future, but I wanted to share something in particular: your WOB is a system of inputs and output.

And it’s “perfect.”

Perfect in the sense that what you put in determines what you get out.

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I love helping clients understand the three critical “awarenesses” of life: 1) what you (deeply, truly, authentically) want, 2) what you’re doing to keep it out of your life and 3) what you need to do instead.

It’s a process of really, truly understanding what you want, the things do (often unconsciously/habitually) that preclude that ever entering your life and what you must do differently.

Is there anything you (think) you want, that isn’t in your life?

It’s because of your WOB.

What’s Your Mindset Like?

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein

I’ll grant you, not everything is going to feel like a “miracle.”

But the bigger point here is that how you approach things matters.

The set of mind you bring to your life is absolutely critical.

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Ever hear the story of the gentleman who runs a drawbridge and is asked by a traveler “what are people like in the next town?”

To which he replies: “what are people like in your town?”

“Oh they’re very nice, friendly and helpful.”

The gentleman tells the traveler: “The people are same there.”

Not long after another traveler asks: “what are the people like in the next town?”

And the gentleman asks again, “what are the people like in your town?”

“Oh, they’re not very nice at all, some are even nasty and stupid.”

Without missing a beat, the gentleman replies: “Oh, I’m afraid they’re like that too.”

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You know what?

The gentleman minding the drawbridge is right, in both cases.

The mindset you bring to anything is the single most, and often the only, important determinant of your experience.