I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.* – Stephen Covey
Sure, circumstances have an influence on what happens.
But such pales in comparison to the impact of your actions.
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And, not to second-guess Covey’s choice-of-words, while decisions are important, but you must act on those decisions. Ever hear the one about the five frogs on a log? There’s five frogs on a log. One decides to jump off. How many frogs are on the log? Five.
Watch your habits; they become character. – Lao Tzu Watch your habits of thinking, acting, eating, speaking, drinking, moving, . . . you become that.
Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth. – Buddha The Sun will rise each day The Moon will rise each evening. And the truth will arrive each and every day. What you make of it, and do with it, will determine whether you evolve that truth – or it…
You’ve heard the saying “everything happens for a reason?” Well, nothing happens for a reason as well.* Just as there are no accidents in the Universe, and all effects have their causes, all lack-of-effects have their not-causes. Whatever we do or don’t have in our lives is the result of what we do or don’t…
So many people have heard the old saw “practice makes perfect.” It’s wrong. Just. Plain. Wrong. I was watching a Tim Ferriss Four Hour Life video and he quoted a top chef who says: “practice makes permanent.” It’s true. Absolutely 100% true. What you train, you ingrain. Whatever you practice creates muscle memory and neural pathways…
If you’re even willing to believe it’s possible, how do you transform negative interpretations about a situation, that you seem to keep holding? The answer, or at least part of the answer, is to uncover the story you have about how, somehow or another, holding on to that interpretation serves you (generally, serves your emotions)….
You can’t make people change. You can’t make yourself change. People make choices based on the best information they have available, according the concerns most pressing at the time. What’s more, we biologically constructed to resist and avoid change. Change equals the unknown. And we have deep genetic programming to avoid the unknown and stick…