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The Far Side of Delay

Patience has its limits. Take it too far, and it’s cowardice. – George Jackson

There’s a difference between preparation and stalling.

There’s a difference between waiting-for-the-right-moment and procrastination.

Knowing the difference makes all the difference.

Never Waste a Calamity

Every calamity is a spur and a valuable hint. – Emerson

Yes, I am riffing off the recent political meme in the post title. (“Never let a crisis go to waste.” (Attributed, I believe, to Rahm Emanuel).)

That aside, Emerson’s words are an extremely valuable reminder.

We ignore “failures” and “calamities” at our peril.

Every result comes from a cause. And whether our role in the “cause” was 1% or 100%, we do indeed have a role in everything we experience.

When we notice and reflect on the results in our lives we can do better in creating/shaping/influencing the causes.

When we ignore, or are otherwise oblivious to, the cause-and-effect nature of life we have little chance to create the sort of life we want.

The key is to own both the successes and failures – they are both just results (owing from causes… ).

It Is *Always* Possible

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama)

I could go in all sorts of directions with this one, but I want to focus on one that doesn’t occur to so many people.

Be kind to yourself.

Always.

That doesn’t mean you rationalize or tell yourself stories that aren’t true. It means that we are often our harshest critics. And we’re generally wrong about what we’ve done, or not done, means.

Being kind to ourselves is often the most empowering thing we can do, for ourselves and others.

When we’re kind to ourselves we develop the habit of, and capacity for, kindness. And what we have for ourselves we can give to others. (Just as when we blame and judge and belittle ourselves, that what we have for others… )

Kindness, as with happiness and so many of the “-nesses” is an inside job.

Be true to yourself and what’s real and be kind, to yourself and others – when it’s possible, and when it’s not.

It’s All a Matter of Perspective

Some painters transform the sun into a yellow spot, others transform a yellow spot into the sun. – Pablo Picasso

Some people have a vague sense that we can play a role in how things seem.

But this sense is – generally – woefully incomplete, and below (our) consciousness.

We do play a role in how things seem: the primary and exclusive role.

We are both the creators and maintainers of how-things-seem.

Everything is either a yellow spot or the sun.

While Picasso’s example is about the work and vision of painters, it’s true in all things.

How we decide the World is, is what it is.

Being unconscious to this doesn’t make it any less true.

The Waste That Is Anger

For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. – Emerson

This reminds me of something I like to remind myself of something (I believe) the Buddha said: “Anger is like swallowing poison expecting your enemy to die.”

I like to view anger in such a (useful) way.

Do you agree?

After reading the above, are you holding on to (and even nurturing and growing) feelings of anger?

If so, how it’s going?