Look Within

Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do. – Buddha

This reminds me of one of my favorite questions.

When I find myself annoyed/bothered by, or otherwise resisting, someone, I ask myself:

“What is it about you that I don’t like about me?”

That usually does the trick . . . .

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