How Choice Works, Really

ByMatthew

You can’t make people change.

You can’t make yourself change.

People make choices based on the best information they have available, according the concerns most pressing at the time.

What’s more, we biologically constructed to resist and avoid change.

Change equals the unknown.

And we have deep genetic programming to avoid the unknown and stick to what we know and understand – even it doesn’t serve our greater good or better selves.

And we continue to choose . . .

We can’t not choose.

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So, people make choices, and choices make the person.

We are nothing if not the sum of our choices.

So, the way to make your life better, more fulfilling, more “successful,” is learn how to make better choices.

But how?

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We must develop greater awareness.

Greater awareness of our moment-to-moment mental life.

Greater awareness of the beliefs that determine what we focus on.

Greater awareness of who we are and what we deeply, truly, authentically want.

When we cultivate and sustain this greater awareness, we will choose better.

And because our choices make us, we become better, we will achieve more and be more fulfilled.

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