How Attraction Really Works

ByMatthew

Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person. – Gloria Steinem

I’m single and looking.

Or at least I used to be.

A very good friend of mine has long advocated that the best way to find a compatible, and quality, mate is do the things you love and see who shows up. They will: 1) likely share your interests and 2) be someone who gets off her ass and does stuff.

Both great qualities in a potential mate

And, best thing of all, no matter happens, you’re out there doing stuff you enjoy.

So, I am no longer single and looking.

I am single and doing.

Doing stuff I love and that intrigues, interests and excites me.

I am being who I am and paying a bit of attention to who shows up.

My Ideal Woman is out there, I just need to get out there too – it’s a question of proximity.

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