Find Out What’s Happening

Whenever something isn’t ideal it’s an opportunity to learn, and grow.

When you’re willing to inquire, to dive deep, you will solve long-standing problems, heal old wounds and spark growth.

But you have to be willing to pause and ask: “What’s really going on here?”

For example, when someone is late, why are they late? Maybe they need to be somewhere else? Maybe they lack clarity on what’s expected or appropriate? Maybe the culture/relationship doesn’t support timeliness? Maybe they want attention?

At the end of the day, every problem or issue is an opportunity for learning and growth.

And it won’t go away until it’s learned.

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