I Suck (sometimes… ); You Suck (sometimes) YAY!

ByMatthew

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. – Pema Chodron

Isn’t it great that no one is perfect?

Well, we are perfect beings, it’s just our behavior isn’t always so perfect.

But I digress.

I love how Chodron’s words remind us that be truly be compassionate we need to remember, and acknowledge/accept, that we have darkness too – we have shadow aspects.

These shadows only persist and have power though to extent that we deny and hide from them.

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