Redefining Perfect

“Perfect” gets a bad rap.

Why? Because it’s confused with “perfection” which is, non-ideal and non-resourceful.

Things are perfect.

And by “perfect” I mean they are just as they should be. There’s no way they could be any other way than how they are.

Things are the way they are by virtue of the choices that have been made.

One of the great, amazing things about “things” being perfect is that once we understand how things were created, we can decide what we like about what is, what we don’t like and what we work towards in the future.

The way things are is a perfect barometer of what we’ve done and haven’t done.

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“Perfection” is quite a different thing.

It’s a sort of pathology that doesn’t allow for mistakes or anything other than a specific, narrow sort of outcome.

And it insists on shame and recrimination whenever “things” don’t measure up.

Perhaps what’s most insidious about perfectionism is that in the rare event that things do turn out exactly as we wished, there’s no real celebration – that’s what was supposed to happen.

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So let’s use the word “perfect” in a new way.

Let’s rejoice in the “what-is” of things and know that they are the way they are because of what’s been done and what hasn’t been done.

When we do that we can both be hopeful about the World and the challenges and opportunities we face in our own lives – if we made it, we can make it better!

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