Responsibility, Not Blame

Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else. – Les Brown 

The key is to understand that there’s a huge difference between responsibility and blame.

When you accept responsibility for your life you acknowledge your role (whatever it was) in creating your current circumstances (and thus empower yourself to make changes and improvements).

When you blame yourself you cast yourself as a victim, subject to and at the mercy of outside influences (while at the same time weakening yourself with shame).

When you’re responsible you know that changes and improvements are going to start with you.

Yes, you may enlist the help of others, but you know that your life is up to you.

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