Change is a door that can only be opened from the inside. – Terry Neil
Any change that doesn’t come from within, that isn’t freely chosen and authentic, is coerced, and will be resisted.
Even if one successfully sustains a coerced change, some form/amount of misery will ensue.
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Decide who you want to be, who you need to be to have the life you want – and become that person on your own.
You’ll enjoy the process more and truly own your results.
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