I recently read a post on Johnny B. Truant’s blog that really hit home. So much so that I wanted to do two things: share it with my readers and 2) think on and write about each piece of his post. The post is “20 Truths About Life No One Wants To Believe” and the fifth one I am going to tackle is:
5. Bitching won’t make your problems go away.
This one is hilarious to see in action. Why does your father always complain about his crappy car? Why does your neighbor complain about the government and taxes? Bitching and complaining does nothing. Action does something, but bitching is not action. Bitching is bitching. Yet people do it fervently, as if they think that bitching enough will, by itself, solve the problem.
I share Johnny’s astonishment that people will whine, moan, complain and bitch about their lives.
The simple fact is that these people are abdicating responsibility for their lives.
They are giving their power away: to people, circumstances and trends – to things outside themselves.
And there’s no quicker way to create feelings of powerlessness, frustration, and at times, anger than to complain.
(And what happens, when people feel like that? What do they do? They whine, moan, complain and bitch – and they feel the same or worse… it’s a downward spiral.)
The precursor to taking action is taking responsibility.
When you take a sober, judgement-free, view of your life and acknowledge that you either had some role in creating things – or realize that you’re putting up with them out if laziness or a desire for the familiar – you can begin to change things.
That’s when you can begin to truly own your life – and, if you want, to stop bitching and get on with creating your life.