The Only Way We See

If one or two people tell you you’re an ass, you can ignore them. But if three or four people tell you you’re an ass, you might think about putting on a saddle. – Yiddish saying The inverse is true as well. If people keep telling you that you have gifts or talents, you must…

As I write this (11/12/2013) the Jonathan-Martin/Richie-Incognito/Miami-Dolphins saga is still very much unfolding. I just read a post from Seth Godin and it got me to thinking. If it is indeed true that the Dolphins’ coaching staff encouraged, or requested that, one of their players “toughen up” another then, as a “coach,” I find that…

Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe. – Oprah Winfrey Let’s imagine that the “truth” of life is that you’ll fall somewhat short of what you aim for? I don’t necessarily believe that, but just for sugar and giggles, let’s pretend . . . . What should…

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. – Pema Chodron Isn’t it great that no one is perfect? Well, we…

For 99% of us, 99% of the time (and these percentages might be low… ), our true nature is wellness and wholeness. Whenever we are not feeling that, we have “distracted” or “diverted” ourselves from this place of calm, wise knowing and perfect health.* One of the master skills of living is to notice any…

As destructive as gossip is normally, turned on its head it can be an incredible force for good. A recent e-mail from Darren Hardy described the power of reverse-gossip: talking about people, behind their backs, in a positive way. Read about it here.  It’s akin to (a definition of) true generosity: giving to someone who really…