Solve (Don’t Repress)

Is that a provocative enough title? Well, it’s true. So many people say they work best under deadline. They say that deadlines make them more focused, etc.. Unfortunately, they’re mistaken. Yes, deadlines often result in work activity, and usually completion, it is however, not the best one can do. If the measure is (for example):…

Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground. Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than when you found it. – Wilferd A. Peterson Allow me to add…

There are, broadly speaking, three kinds of “dependent:” co-, in- and inter-. One is clearly undesirable, another is sometimes okay and a third (understood properly) is clearly superior. Which do you think is which? I’ll take them in order. Co-dependent: being co-dependent means you not only are not divorced from your personal power, but your…

He who is outside his door has the hardest part of his journey behind him. – Dutch proverb The hardest thing about anything is starting. Not because the first step is the hardest of the steps, compared to the others. But because there is Safety and anything (and everything) else. It’s kinda like going swimming…

A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds. – Francis Bacon Want some “truth?” Whatever you focus on comes to pass. Not necessarily exactly how you envision it (sometimes better… ), but usually close. In most every phase of life you can look at life’s events as see them as “problems” or “opportunities.”…

One of my mentors (Steve Chandler) offers a powerful distinction useful in just about every area of life: expectations vs. agreements. Most of us have expectations. Expectations about how life should go and how people should behave. Invariably, many of these expectations are not met. As a result we are disappointed, frustrated and upset. We…