Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do. – Buddha
This reminds me of one of my favorite questions.
When I find myself annoyed/bothered by, or otherwise resisting, someone, I ask myself:
“What is it about you that I don’t like about me?”
That usually does the trick . . . .
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