Something just occurred to me: “What about all the folks that say they want to do X, or be better at Y or stop doing Z? They all say they want to change but complain it’s too hard, or they can change for a while, but eventually “slip.”
The truth is that the “how” is easy when the “why” is strong enough. When you want what you want more than other things, it’s relatively easy to sketch out a plan to create any change or achieve a goal.
For example, if you want to get a promotion at work, but are only getting middling performance reviews then something’s got to give. But you feel stuck and – honestly – comfortable.
This is completely normal. But if the “why” is strong enough you’ll find a way.
Increasingly people are using coaches to help clarify and strengthen their “whys.”
If you came to me with the above opportunity I would want to help you 1) figure out why exactly you want the promotion and 2) what you’re doing to keep the promotion out-of-your-life.
Yes, you read that correctly. If there’s something you truly want, then, 99.999% of the time, you’re keeping it out of your life by what you choose to do instead. These things may be so habitual and/or comfortable that you don’t/can’t see them, but they are there.
Maybe you want that promotion, maybe you actually don’t.
There is a process to 1) figure out exactly what you want and 2) make anything you truly want real.
It’s the sort of work I do with clients all the time.