How Joy Works

Habits are powerful, generally hidden, drivers of behavior. My basic understanding of habits is that there’s a cue, a response and a reward (or result) (that is seen as desirable and/or functional). Many habits are not, actually, good for us, and/or those around us. *  *  * A question some coaches (myself included) like to ask…

I am reading a great book by Ronald and Mary Hulnick, “Loyalty to Your Soul” and have to share something I read: “How we relate to an issue is the issue.” This is such a powerful idea. “Issues” are happening all the time. How we decide to interact with them makes all the difference. When we…

“The key is not to prioritize what is on the schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey The critical bit here is you must know your priorities to schedule them. Not: what’s demanding your attention from moment-to-moment, or the pressing thing, or what you want right now because you think it’ll make you…

Make yourself proud. – Peter W. Smith Who do you spend the most time with? Answer: you. Who is the person whose esteem is most important, to you? Again: you. What makes this so powerful for me is when you approach it from a different angle. Who do you need to trust the most? Your…

Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do. – Buddha This reminds me of one of my favorite questions. When I find myself annoyed/bothered by, or otherwise resisting, someone, I ask myself: “What is it about you that I don’t…

If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything. – Mark Twain Of course, not lying is the easiest and best way to not get caught lying, but what if you need some incentive? Huh? Honesty is definitely the best policy, and being honest is honorable and in-sync with the better aspect of our…