How Joy Works

We hear a lot about soft skills (emotional intelligence (EI) and the like). I’ve always been a bit bothered by the characterization of such vital skills as “soft.” With the exception of such things as pillows and the like, “soft” is a pejorative – especially for men. I’m here to shift that. From now on, let’s…

To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. – Aristotle But what if you want to be something? What then… ? You must dare, in ways small and large. As Brene’ Brown would say: be vulnerable. As Shedd would say: ships are safe in the harbor, but that’s not what ships are for. Be…

If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you. – Zig Ziglar If we’re not growing we’re dying (we’re dying anyway, but don’t let that get in my way here… ). When we seek and surmount challenges we get better. We become more confident and sure of ourselves. Isn’t that what we want? Is that…

The important thing is to learn a lesson every time you lose. – John McEnroe Always make sure you learn.* Otherwise, what’s losing for? ***** * And make sure you learn when you win too!

How you see yourself determines what you’ll do. How clearly you see what you want to do determines what you’ll accomplish. Your self-concept and beliefs about what you think you can and can’t do and so important to what you’ll even attempt. If you don’t think you’re worthy or capable you won’t even start. And,…

When you make a mistake, the first time, and it costs you (and it will cost you something), learn from it and call it (the cost) tuition. If you make the same mistake, and it costs you (and it always does, in some way), it’s a tax (and the mistake (i.e. lesson) will keep showing…