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The Folly of Pleasing

You can do anything once you stop trying to do everything. – Eric Barker

Why would anyone try to everything anyways?

One possibility: to please.

Trying to please others.

Trying to please the idea we have in our heads about what people want from us.

Trying to do enough and make people happy.

Why? Because we think we’re not not enough.

And that’s the problem and the solution.

We think we’re not enough . . . .

All we need to do is think differently.

Think accurately. That we’re more than enough. And that when we focus on one thing at a time, we bring forth our greatness and genius.

Now that’s pleasing.

Just Be

Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one. – Marcus Aurelius

Arguing is generally a waste of time (but only 99% of the time) (better to have an actual conversation, where real listening takes place and ideas get exchanged and considered).

There’s no point in debating what it is to be a good man; just pick something that will improve your character – your way-of-being – and do it.

Waste no more time: act.

It’s Not Enough To Know

Knowledge is power, but enthusiasm pulls the switch – Ivern Ball

Yes, knowledge is important, but it is not sufficient.

One must act.

Ideally, with enthusiasm.*

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The Universe loves enthusiasm.

What Really Hurts

I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But, I can’t accept not trying. – Michael Jordan

People fear failure.

They worry that things won’t turn out just like they want, so they do little, or nothing

And it hurts.

It really, really hurts.

Not getting-punched-in-the-mouth-by-Mike-Tyson-hurt, but a hurt just as bad.

What doesn’t actually hurt is doing something and “failing.”

The reason why is that the satisfaction of having taken action is an amazing analgesic.

It makes things feel better.

It helps you sleep at night.

It heals your psychic bruises.

It makes your emotional muscles stronger.

It makes you more resilient and wiser.

What really hurts is the story you have about why you “can’t.”

Creating A Problem-Free Life

The solution of the problem that you see in life is to live in a way that will make what is problematic disappear. – Ludvig Wittgenstein

This quote inspires me:

What if I lived my life in such a way that 1) Problems / Issues / Frustrations/ Impossibilities were seen as Challenges / Learning-and-Growth-Opportunities and 2) my choices and actions increasingly create a life wherein things I don’t welcome or prefer are increasingly absent?

What do you think?

Is it possible?

Is the “problem” that I even need to ask if it’s possible?

Is doubting the possibility of such a life the only thing standing in the way of its creation?

The idea of living in such a way is very enticing . . . dontcha think?