Character is like a garden.
It matters what you plant and how you care for it.
You must also regularly weed your “garden,” being mindful of non-resourceful habits (little or big) compromises and your standards.
If you let these things slip (i.e. you don’t weed your character garden), your character, and life, will suffer.
It also matters how you nourish those things you decided to plant (like the Values you’ve chosen to identify with).
The food you give to your garden must be healthy and sustainable; short-cuts will always get you later.
Also, if I can extend this metaphor even further, you must plant approrpiately for your garden. Only make commitments that are right for you. Be true to yourself. If you compromise yourself for others, or other things, your self-esteem will be diminished – and you wil suffer accordingly.
And, finally, know that gardens have seasons. Sometimes rest and recovery is important, other times call for new plantings and growth. Knowing the difference – for you – is critical.
Recently I was watching the Tavis Smiley show and he mentioned to a guest something his grandmother used to say: “There’s a lesson and blessing in everything.”
Now, of course, the lesson can be hard to see (and accept) sometimes, and is usually more evident later, but the blessing can be almost impossible to see (at any point).
But it’s there.
It just is.
It can take time to see it, or accept it, but even if the blessing is just that you’re wiser for a particular experience, it’s still something valuable – but you must be willing to seek it, and see it.
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Don’t believe it?
I was on Facebook today and a friend posted a link to the following video.
[Did ya watch it?]
Well, if Tommy Iommi can find some benefit in losing a couple finger-tips in an industrial accident, then . . . .
We can have more than we’ve got because we can become more than we are. – Jim Rohn
What do you think of this?
Your belief on this idea is one of the most important determinants to your level of peace, happiness, fulfillment and achievement.
In terms of what you do, I mean?
Should you, as so many say, love what you do?
Read this article and come back . . . .
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So, what do you think?
Has your answer changed, or evolved even?
I think, as the author does as well (in his own way), that it’s important to be in love what what you do. And not necessarily love everything about what you do.
That’s were people get this idea wrong.
They think they need to love everything about what they do, or keep searching.
But you do need to be in love with what your work is about.
More genius from a mentor of mine, Steve Chandler:
All fear comes from picturing the future. Putting things off increases that fear. Soon we are nothing but heavy minds weighing down on weary brains. Too much future will do that. Only a warrior’s approach will solve this. A warrior takes his sword to the future.
Don’t try to manage linear time. Linear time starts with your birth and ends (at the end of the line) with your death.
Along that long linear line it’s just one damned thing after another. Then the lights go out. What was the point?
Non-linear time management stops all that weary nonsensical treading on the road to one’s destiny. Rather than worming along horizontally you will simply rise up. Your life can now become vertical. Now you won’t postpone challenges, you’ll rise to them. You’ll become a time warrior.
What will you rise to?
What in your life calls for the warrior in you?