Category: Blog

How Feelings Work

I was reading a blog post from Seth Godin and about 2/3rds of the way through, he said the following:

Stop engaging with the false theory that the best way to stop feeling like a failure is to succeed. – Seth Godin

It hit me like a ton of bricks.

Sometimes you have to identify what you need to stop doing so you can make room for discovering what you need to start doing.

If you’re feeling like a failure, or worrying that you’ll fail, “succeeding more” isn’t the solution.

Figuring out how you’re generating the feeling of failure is the answer.

When you realize that your feelings, overwhelmingly, come from your thoughts (and beliefs are just thoughts you stop questioning and hold).

So, solving feelings of failure come from understanding the thoughts you think, repeat and hold that create feelings of failure.

If your house is on fire the solution is not to build more house, it’s to put the fire out.

Please go read the entire article; it’s great.

You: A Discoverer

Discovery is seeing what everybody else has seen, and thinking what nobody else has thought. – Dr. Albert Szent-Gyorgyi

I love how this sentiment democratizes discovery.

It becomes something anyone can do, in regards to anything.

You could be a discoverer.

Anyone can.

How does that shift you?

How does change how you look at the world?

At yourself?

How Do You Become a Master of Life?

Today’s post is simple.

It’s a supposition really.

Putting aside the fact that mastery is an on-going, never-ending process, a practice (for life), what are the keys that fuel a practice of life mastery?

Can we distill such a practice to a few elements?

I believe we can.

First, there’s the fundamental challenge – and opportunity – of life: change.

Mastery of life is mastery of change.

Next is the key that allows one to fully participate, to extent that one develops this, in the never-ending process of change: awareness.

Mastery of change is mastery of awareness.

What do you think?

Is engaging with change, as a life-time mastery practice, along with the development of greater awareness – greater consciousness – enough?

What else is there really?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Suffering vs. Pain

I was listening to a WNPR (CT Public Radio) radio show (The Colin McEnroe Show) and he was interviewing Byron Katie (of The Work).

In their conversation Katie said something to effect of “all suffering comes from thought.”

This McEnroe took some issue with.

It was, unfortunately, a mis-understanding borne of not defining the term “suffering.”

McEnroe was talking about things like cancer and losing all one’s money to a crooked business partner and arguing that such things weren’t the result of thinking.

He’s right, but the things he were referring to are “pain;” actual phenomena and events.

Katie is talking about the mental dis-ease one creates when they use their mind and thoughts in ways that don’t work, that don’t serve their effectiveness and happiness.

This “suffering” is not pain. It’s something else. Katie would say that it’s believing things that just aren’t true. (And if people would dispute thoughts that don’t serve them, through The Work, then they would be much better off.)

I’m grateful for having heard their conversation and for realizing the pain vs. suffering distinction.

And I’m looking forward to challenging thoughts that don’t serve me when I’m feeling bad, or not feeling as good as I could.

What about you? Do you have thoughts and beliefs that don’t serve you? What if you disputed and released them? As Katie would say: who would you be without your story?

Wherever You Go . . .

Very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene. – Arthur Christopher Benson

Where ever you go, there you are.

It is rare that a change of address will solve one’s problems.

The great news is that when you get to the core of what’s bothering you it can be fixed, by you, where you are.

There’s no need to go anywhere.