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What Our Lives Really Are

The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. – William James

I’m sure I’ve blogged on this quote before, but it bears repeating – at least for me.

As I learned from a mentor, our lives are not what happens to us and around us, and not even just our thoughts about what happens to us and around us, but the feelings that come from our thoughts.

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What is so amazing about James’ words, and what I’ve gained from Neill’s work, is that it all starts with our thoughts.

James teaches us that whatever we want to create is possible, if we only properly orient our thoughts (and do the work!).

Neill reminds us that we don’t experience the world, we experience our feelings about our thoughts on the world; change our thoughts and we change our feelings – and thus our experience of the world.

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Can’t change (/manage) your thoughts well, or at all?


Can’t meditate?

Sit quietly for five minutes a day.

Can’t sit quietly for five minutes a day?

Seriously . . . ? C’mon! I know you can.*

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* If you have a condition of some sort which precludes you from sitting quietly, I apologize, but I sincerely believe there’s a practice (of some sort) that would work for you as well.

One Way To Make Someone Trustworthy

The only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him. – Henry Stimson

Who do you wish you could trust?

Trust them.

Go ahead, it will be okay.

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But, “What if they abuse that trust!?” you object?

Create a life impervious to the actions of others – a life free of attachments, expectations and rules – doing such is a great way to spend your time . . . .

Then, you can trust freely.

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Or, you can just do it now, as if all that was true.*

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* Because, in truth, it is.

Embrace Your Failures (in a healthy way)

I am grateful for all of my problems. After each one was overcome, I became stronger and more able to meet those that were still to come. I grew in all my difficulties. – J.C. Penney

To the extent that you reject, or separate yourself from, your challenges you will fail to experience real growth.

Of course, you don’t want to embrace or seek calamity or catastrophe, but instead, be willing to risk and fail.

Often, it’s simply being willing to have things turn out less-than-perfect.

Go beyond making peace with problems/issues/setbacks/failures and embrace and honor them for the necessary steps they are.

Or continue to resist them and have them (the same sorts of problems) keep showing up and again and again

Everything Exists

You say I started out with practically nothing, but that isn’t correct. We all start with all there is, it’s how we use it that makes things possible. – Henry Ford

I love the reminder this quote offers.

In considering this idea, remember that energy – which is what everything is – cannot be created or destroyed, only changed into different forms.

So everything we need exists, possibly in a form we wouldn’t prefer.

We must work to create what we want by transforming that which is into that which we desire.

Just as there is no desire you can authentically hold that you can’t actually create, everything you need exists (in some form or another).

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Today’s post is a “bonus” post to get us up to 405 (there was no post due to a holiday and I wanted to resume the order of each week’s total ending with a “0” or a “5”).

Phases of Education and The Importance of UN-learning

The chief object of education is not to learn things but to unlearn things. – G. K. Chesterton

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It wasn’t until I got to college that I really began to wake up to the idea that I didn’t know things.

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As I progressed through college I – luckily – learned that there were many, many, many things I did not know.

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Now that I am older I am realizing that there are many things that I do, or don’t do, because of things I “know,” that don’t serve me.

I now get to unlearn things that have been holding me back and keeping small.

It is this “third” education that has the most to teach.

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Where are you stuck or small? What do you need to un-learn?