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Nothing So Sweet, So Precious . . .

That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet. – Emily Dickinson

. . . as this precious moment.

Make the most of each moment, whether that means doing something monumental, something tiny, or nothing at all.

Each moment is precious as it stands out amongst them all.

In a sense, there is no other moment other than this one – be in it.

Wisdom Without Application is Just Information

“A spoon cannot taste of the food it carries. Likewise, a foolish man cannot understand the wise man’s wisdom even if he associates with a sage.” – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama)

Nor is reading a good book enough.

Good practices and wisdom must be applied, consistently, to be of any benefit.

My Goals – My Resolve

“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs” – James Allen

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What must I believe about myself to perpetuate my current conditions?

What must I believe about myself to create the conditions I desire?

What is the disconnect between the conditions I say I want, and the conditions I create?

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I create according to my beliefs about what is safe and functional.

If what I am experiencing and what I say I want are different, there must be a disconnect between my stated desires and my deeply held beliefs.

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What do I want more than what I say I want?

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The above is an e-mail I sent myself the other day.

I had the idea that maybe I wasn’t the only who sometimes has trouble achieving goals so I though I’d share.

I invite you to look carefully at the language above.*

It all started with a quote from James Allen, but it grew into (for me) a powerful set of questions that have 1) put me on notice that I have some things to figure out and 2) that I have some work to do.

What about you?

What do you take away?

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* Especially the last bolded sentence. In future posts I will be exploring Kegan and Lahey’s work on Immunity to Change (which for me is very powerful/attractive explanation for why we don’t do what we say we need to do).

Attitude: Change It or Change It

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. – Maya Angelou

Complaining is a prayer for what you don’t want.

Whatever we focus on expands; so if you’re complaining, you’re expanding what you don’t want (or what you say you don’t want . . . ).

So, if you don’t like something, either:

1) figure out how to change it; or

2) change how you look at it (change what it means to you).

What To Do

In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing. – Theodore Roosevelt

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But how do we know what the “right” thing is?

Sometimes we know, sometimes we don’t . . . take your best guess and act.

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But what if we’re afraid to do the wrong thing?

Examine the fear, see if it’s rational . . . mitigate any risk as best you can and act.

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Feel frozen and “can’t” act?

Ask yourself what you have, that you want more (than what you say you want), and see if it’s worth being stuck for . . . and then act (somehow, someway).