The Folly of Pleasing

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. – Pema Chodron Isn’t it great that no one is perfect? Well, we…

We live into the questions we ask ourselves. If we ask crap questions, like “Why does this always happen to me?” or “How come I can never catch a break,?” we’ll get crap “answers.” Similarly, if we ask small, or limiting, questions we will have requisitely small lives. However, if we ask useful, resourceful questions,…

The root of all health is in the brain. The trunk of it is in emotion. The branches and leaves are the body. The flower of health blooms when all parts work together. – Kurdish saying Your thoughts create your emotions and your emotions fuel your actions. Good health begins with healthy thoughts. What do…

. . . make any New Year’s Resolutions. They. Don’t. Work. The whole thing is an artificial construct that only makes you feel about yourself (and gives you a bad impression of goal-setting and achievement). What should you do instead? Well, you shouldn’t do anything. (Do things because you clearly and authentically want to do them.)…

Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth. – Rumi We are all living a story. A story we create with the help of others and our repeated thoughts and beliefs. At any time you can shift your story. Rewrite it. Be an active and authentic author going…

You can tell me what you want, what you dream about, what your “Ideal Life” would be, what you want to start or stop, . . . , but all that matters is what you do. At the end of the day: behavior always wins. All that – really – matters is action. Of course, emotions beget…