The Nature of Desires

Aren’t desires bad?

Don’t desires lead to suffering?

Isn’t that what Buddha would say?

If I recall, Buddha would say that cravings and attachments lead to suffering. Desires are a natural part of life.

Properly understood* desires are healthy.

Authentic** desires are healthy.

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* To properly understand your desires you must know yourself, both what you value and how your thoughts and emotions interact. When you’re clear on your values, as desires arise – and they will, unceasingly – you will be able to check in with your emotions (which is how your stored memories are communicated through your body) and make wise choices about which desires to prioritize.

** When what you work towards is in keeping with who you truly are, you are expressing yourself in a healthy and sustainable way.

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