If one or two people tell you you’re an ass, you can ignore them. But if three or four people tell you you’re an ass, you might think about putting on a saddle. – Yiddish saying The inverse is true as well. If people keep telling you that you have gifts or talents, you must…
One of my mentors (Steve Chandler) offers a powerful distinction useful in just about every area of life: expectations vs. agreements. Most of us have expectations. Expectations about how life should go and how people should behave. Invariably, many of these expectations are not met. As a result we are disappointed, frustrated and upset. We…
This post has been hanging around in my “Drafts” folder and I (just) wanted to get it out to you. Hopefully you can forgive the lack of insightful and entertaining commentary and enjoy the video. Click here to watch Derek Siver’s excellent video on creativity, and how we often sell ourselves short.
There are, broadly speaking, three kinds of “dependent:” co-, in- and inter-. One is clearly undesirable, another is sometimes okay and a third (understood properly) is clearly superior. Which do you think is which? I’ll take them in order. Co-dependent: being co-dependent means you not only are not divorced from your personal power, but your…
Without courage, all other virtues lose their meaning. – Winston Churchill Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s acting anyway. Where are you afraid, where you could act anyway? Which of your fears are just excuses?
“The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear.” – Socrates What if instead of trying to convince people that you’re trust-worthy, or a good person to do business with, or a good romantic partner, you just were that person? My guess is that it would less…