You. Must. Start.

People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds. It is something one creates. – Thomas Szasz Saying one must “find themself” is such a mind-fudge. As if who you are is out there, waiting under some rock or behind a tree. Who…

beautiful, amazing, challenging, rewarding, what you make it, fantastic, boring, excellent, fun, exciting, the sum of our choices so far, breathtaking, dull, to be savored, tough, just what we see, just too busy, pre-destined, much more than meets the eye, simple, complex, easy, hard, to be endured, for our enjoyment, a series of challenges, easy,…

Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. – T.S. Eliot What we can do and what we think we can do are so often far apart. The problem is 1) we are (generally/overwhelmingly) so wrong about what we’re truly capable of and 2) we take our…

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. – Epicurus I would tweak the above and say: instead of craving what you don’t have, set goals based on your best guess of what else you might want…

We have a biological imperative to be safe, whole and injury-free. All stimuli is evaluated through the filter of past experience against this imperative. We have a similar mental imperative. Our biological imperative is known as the Survival Instinct, the mental equivalent is our Identity. Any change, or disruption, in our sense of who we are – our…

Many people are not living the lives they really want (myself* included). One of the reasons people don’t is because they think they should be able to just do it, but they know they aren’t ready. This creates a short little “despair loop” which takes the person out of possibility and back to “reality.” The truth…