When You Lose

Default. Habitual. Less-than-fully-Conscious. Routine. Comfortable. The Usual. So much of what we do is out of habit. It’s routine. It’s just the way we do it. There’s good reason for how this happens and why. We’re built to create and use routines and habits. It’s efficient. It leaves room to focus on threats and survival. It’s primitive….

People like to play with the letters of “fear” and make them into cute little acronyms. Some of them are actually useful, one comes to mind: False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear stops so many people from doing what they want to do that I feel compelled to introduce my own little riff on the four…

There is the timeless, changeless core: our humanity — that which we truly ARE, what we have always been (regardless of our (sometimes) behavior to the contrary). And then there is the external: behavior — that which must interact and adapt, this is what leaders DO. The core is who they are, behavior is what they do….

There are two kinds of men who never amount to much: those who cannot do what they are told, and those who can do nothing else. – Cyrus H. Curtis One of the greatest challenges of living in a society (or a community, or family, or relationship) – with its myriad influences and normative (and sometimes…

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. – Maya Angelou Complaining is a prayer for what you don’t want. Whatever we focus on expands; so if you’re complaining, you’re expanding what you don’t want (or what you say you don’t want . . . ). So,…

Change the belief, and the thinking automatically changes. Change the thinking, and the action changes. Change the action, and the result changes. So here’s the key: depending on the results you personally want, align your beliefs with the desired outcome. – John Assraf There’s really little I can add here, other than: if you are…