When You Lose

Not forgiving is sometimes a function of not trusting our ability to be strong and whole in the face of the thing or person we have forgiven. We are glad (eventually) for the realization that someone, or something, has harmed us and we want to be vigilant against future injury, or error. So we remain…

I recently read a (nother) brilliant post by Seth Godin, one piece of which was about resilience. It got me to thinking: is better to have ultra smooth roads and cars with no suspension, no shock absorbers, or to build cars with resilience? Which would be a more intelligent use of resources? Living in the…

“It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.” – John Wooden Often, many of us, are easily distracted by the new, the shiny, the novel. And big things. We take note of grand accomplishments and gestures. Yet we don’t notice so much. Our brains are natural filtering mechanisms. There’s simply too…

“If people knew how hard I worked to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so wonderful.” – Michelangelo By now its the rare person who hasn’t heard that to be expert at something, to be a “master,” one must practice 10,000 hours. Take heart though, you can be pretty damn good after a couple thousand hours….

I don’t normally include whole posts from other folks, but when I do, it’s generally from Seth Godin (Steve Chandler being the other common exception) (and this one is short… ). The below reminds me of Carol Dweck‘s amazing work on Mindset. According to Dweck there are some who believe that the gifts and talents…

Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat – Napoleon Hill At the risk of sounding like a ranting Dennis Green, things are what we say they are, and when we say they are things that serve us, that’s what they become. When confronted with a set-back, challenge, problem, issue, or…