When You Lose

A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner. – English proverb Stress gets a bad rap these days. It’s mis-understood and thus, vilified, and, also, in a sense, glorified. Article after article, study after study, TV segment after TV segment and book after book talks about how terrible stress is and the terrible impact it…

Today is Thanksgiving in the United States and I wanted to share some quotes and brief thoughts on gratitude and being thankful: “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust Honor those who, by their presence and way, make much…

One theory says that if you treat people well, you’re more likely to encourage them to do what you want, making all the effort pay off. Do this, get that. Another one, which I prefer, is that you might consider treating people with kindness merely because you can. Regardless of what they choose to do…

This post focuses on the first competence of Emotional Intelligence*, Emotional Self-awareness (contained within the Self-Awareness Domain): Leaders high in emotional self-awareness are attuned to their inner signals, recognizing how their feelings affect them and their job performance. They are attuned to their guiding values and can often intuit the best course of action, seeing…

Discern. Distinguish. Decide. Just three words, but they are such powerful words. Mastering the true meanings of these words will have a huge impact of anyone’s life. What do these words mean? Discern Discernment is both the ability to aware of something and place it in context. The first part is awareness: you must have…

You can persuade/force/coerce someone to change their behavior, but that doesn’t equal change. Actual change, lasting change, comes from within. It is something that the person must authentically want. Otherwise, it’s just temporary behavior change . . . .