The Lesson

ByMatthew

Every calamity is a spur and a valuable hint. – Emerson

In every experience there are two questions one can ask:

#1 – Is there a lesson in this?

#2 – What’s the lesson in this?

Just asking Question One is a great step. A wonderful sign of willingness.

Asking Question Two is what all happy, fulfilled and successful people do – consistently (in some form or another).

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This is so because there’s no failure, only results.

These results can be seen as unwelcome and negative (and thusly resisted . . . ) or seen as information, as just-ripe wisdom ready to be harvested.

This choice is always available to you: to use what’s happened for your benefit, or not.

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