The Difference

One of my mentors (Steve Chandler) offers a powerful distinction useful in just about every area of life: expectations vs. agreements. Most of us have expectations. Expectations about how life should go and how people should behave. Invariably, many of these expectations are not met. As a result we are disappointed, frustrated and upset. We…

I found this in my “share-with-others” pile and am pleased to offer it now; it was an e-mail from a mentor, Steve Chandler: Get out of the future, stay in the now. You want to glance into the future when you make your goals, your objectives, your master plan, but then set that aside and…

Not facing a fire doesn’t put it out. Tennessee Williams The Japanese word Kaizen means (small and continuous) improvement. The making better of things, over time. Rather than confronting issues, problems and long-festering wounds “head-on” with a Hollywood-action-movie-like-grandiosity, what if you identified a particular component of an issue or problem or long-festering wound and took…

We live into the questions we ask ourselves. If we ask crap questions, like “Why does this always happen to me?” or “How come I can never catch a break,?” we’ll get crap “answers.” Similarly, if we ask small, or limiting, questions we will have requisitely small lives. However, if we ask useful, resourceful questions,…

A great rock is not disturbed by the wind; the mind of a wise man is not disturbed by either honor or abuse. – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama) I heard someone say that one of the hallmarks of a good life is to be immune from both the good and bad…

“No one lives long enough to learn everything they need to learn starting from scratch. To be successful, we absolutely, positively have to find people who have already paid the price to learn the things that we need to learn to achieve our goals.” – Brian Tracy (Just about) Anything you want to do has…