In All Starts Inside

ByMatthew

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama)

You can never love anyone more than you love yourself.

You can never be happier than you think you deserve.

You can never earn more than you think you’re worth.

Whatever measure, metric, quality or state-of-being you can name, you must have it within before you can: experience it externally, give it to another or share it with someone else.

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Conversely, what’s inside you will come out when you’re stressed and under pressure.

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