Each one has to find his peace from within. And for peace to be real it must be unaffected by outside circumstances. – Mahatma Gandhi
This reminds me of something I heard in the past: real peace-of-mind is being unaffected by both the bad and good opinion of others.
So, cultivate and nurture a peace that is unaffected by circumstances.
And, cultivate and sustain a sense of self that is unaffected by what others think.
Only you can do it, and the benefits are immeasurable.
There’s a difference between pain (and discomfort and effort) and injury. When we’re in “pain” we often give up. Now, I’m not talking about doing things that create injuries, more the things that we say: “oh what a pain that is” about. Injuries are when things get damaged and need to heal. Pain, discomfort, and the…
Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day-in, day-out. Not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years. And working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint….
People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds. It is something one creates. – Thomas Szasz Saying one must “find themself” is such a mind-fudge. As if who you are is out there, waiting under some rock or behind a tree. Who…
One of my mentors (Steve Chandler) offers a powerful distinction useful in just about every area of life: expectations vs. agreements. Most of us have expectations. Expectations about how life should go and how people should behave. Invariably, many of these expectations are not met. As a result we are disappointed, frustrated and upset. We…
Here’s some ancient wisdom: “To do two things at once is to do neither.” – Publius Syrus And some modern “validation:” People confuse “rapid-switching” with multi-tasking [NPR article] And Peter Bregman explains that trying to multi-task makes us less-smart, less-productive and less-competent [HBR Blogs] I’m convinced (of course I already knew that trying to multi-task was…
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. – Alice Walker Even if the consequences might be unpleasant, you always have a choice. You can, if you calm and quiet your mind, choose the vast majority of your thoughts. When you manage your thoughts well, you will…