Dreams and History

* Or, how our approach to risk changes as our lives change. A good friend of mine is an avid golfer. He’s also a father, a partner, a son, a brother, a (very successful) salesperson and a mayor (at a certain Starbucks, at least). I’m writing this for him, in particular, but also for anyone…

“If anything terrifies me, I must try to conquer it.” – Francis Chichester Sometimes what scares us is what we must do. Sometimes it’s the last thing we should do. Knowing the difference is one the key skills of a great life.

Clarity + Commitment + Action + Iteration = Results Clarity – you must know what, exactly, you are seeking. To the extent you are unclear, you will founder, be frustrated, less-than-effective and even choose, or stop at, the wrong thing (because it resembles what you said you wanted . . . ) Commitment – You…

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. – Bill Cosby The interesting thing about fear of failure is that it’s just one form of the fear of change. What people really fear is change. Why? Because our emotional brain references ancient programming from early Man that…

It’s not your fault though. There are two reasons why it can be (very) hard to change, start or not do something: will-power is a finite resource and scarce within each day in-the-moment awareness is required to exert will-power Once your will-power is gone on any given day, it’s hard to do something hard (or to not do something……

“The key is not to prioritize what is on the schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey The critical bit here is you must know your priorities to schedule them. Not: what’s demanding your attention from moment-to-moment, or the pressing thing, or what you want right now because you think it’ll make you…