Who Should You Be?

ByMatthew

Stop aspiring to be anyone other than your own best self: for only that falls within your control. – Epictetus

One of the biggest realizations one can have is that focusing on what you control, to the exclusion of that which you can’t, is the best thing you can do to be productive, well-compensated, peaceful and happy.

To the extent you give energy to things beyond your control, you suffer.

It’s that simple.

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The greatest, and wisest, aspiration you can have to be the best version yourself.

The version that learns from the past, dreams to the future and focuses on acting in the present.

Be that you.

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