Whatever You Say . . .

Evidence is conclusive that your self-talk has a direct bearing on your performance. – Zig Ziglar

This post’s title is not just a snarky thing teen-agers say to their parents, it’s how self-esteem works.

And self-esteem is how achievement and happiness and life satisfaction work.

Whatever you say, to yourself is the biggest determinant of what you do, or don’t do.

What happens inside of so many people’s heads are the echoes of the sh!t people have said to them, and around them, in the past.

The way to quiet the cacophony of crap is 1) dispute the beliefs that stem from these ‘old voices’ and 2) create good, resourceful questions that preoccupy our minds with good stuff.

What’s so sad and frustrating about this is how insidious and subtle the old voices are.

But if we want to move forward and live conscious and creative lives, we must quiet and eventually silence these voices so we may replace them with our own authentic, resourceful voice.

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