Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. – Coco Chanel
The only time you should beat on a wall is if you are (hitting it in such a way that you’re) making a hole for a door.
Feebly pounding on or flailing against a wall in the hopes it will become a door only wastes your time (and, if walls were so inclined, annoys the wall).
If you’re even willing to believe it’s possible, how do you transform negative interpretations about a situation, that you seem to keep holding? The answer, or at least part of the answer, is to uncover the story you have about how, somehow or another, holding on to that interpretation serves you (generally, serves your emotions)….
I recently challenged myself to be willing to ask myself and clients: how are you great? Not in a bragging or self-aggrandizing way, or a narcissistic way, but in a genuine, human way. A way that acknowledges – and embraces – the perfection and limitlessness of our pure spiritual self, and knows that how we manifest as…
Like success, failure is many things to many people. With a positive mental attitude, failure is a learning experience, a rung on the ladder, a plateau at which to get your thoughts in order and prepare to try again. – W. Clement Stone One of my defining beliefs on failure comes from Tony Robbins: there’s…
We hear a lot about soft skills (emotional intelligence (EI) and the like). I’ve always been a bit bothered by the characterization of such vital skills as “soft.” With the exception of such things as pillows and the like, “soft” is a pejorative – especially for men. I’m here to shift that. From now on, let’s…
People die of fright and live of confidence. – Henry David Thoreau Fright, dread, (dis)stress, angst, anxiety . . . fear is caustic, it’s poisonous, it’s not good for your soul. Confidence, hope, joy, determination, self-assurance, faith . . . love is life-giving, it’s what feeds your soul. What matters here is focus. What you…
We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. – Dalai Lama (Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama) You can never love anyone more than you love yourself. You can never be happier than you think you deserve. You can never earn more than you think you’re worth. Whatever…