One of the Most Important Skills

There are, broadly speaking, three kinds of “dependent:” co-, in- and inter-. One is clearly undesirable, another is sometimes okay and a third (understood properly) is clearly superior. Which do you think is which? I’ll take them in order. Co-dependent: being co-dependent means you not only are not divorced from your personal power, but your…

It isn’t where you came from; it’s where you’re going that counts. – Ella Fitzgerald The past is useful as a textbook. Something to review on occasion to learn and grow from, but it’s no where to live. It’s certainly no place to worry about. What matters is where you’re going. *  *  * Where are…

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. – Maya Angelou Complaining is a prayer for what you don’t want. Whatever we focus on expands; so if you’re complaining, you’re expanding what you don’t want (or what you say you don’t want . . . ). So,…

According to Webster’s New Twentieth Century Dictionary (Unabridged, Second Edition) there are 16 definitions of character; I will list those relevant here: 7. an individual’s pattern of behavior or personality; moral constitution; 8. moral strength, self-discipline, fortitude, etc.; 9. reputation; 12. a statement about the behavior, qualities, etc. of a person; recommendation. What character does is…

There are seven days in a week and Someday isn’t one of them. – Unknown Whatever you want to do. Whatever you want to create. Whatever you want to become. Whatever relationship you want to start or repair. Begin now. Take some action now. The first step though, often isn’t the first step (at least…

In life, the opposite of creation is not destruction, it’s victim-hood. “Huh?” (you may say). In life, we can choose to be responsible for our lives and create through our choices, or play the victim and allow life to wash over us all the while lamenting the unfairness of things and wallowing in passivity. Put another…