How Feelings Work

I was reading a blog post from Seth Godin and about 2/3rds of the way through, he said the following:

Stop engaging with the false theory that the best way to stop feeling like a failure is to succeed. – Seth Godin

It hit me like a ton of bricks.

Sometimes you have to identify what you need to stop doing so you can make room for discovering what you need to start doing.

If you’re feeling like a failure, or worrying that you’ll fail, “succeeding more” isn’t the solution.

Figuring out how you’re generating the feeling of failure is the answer.

When you realize that your feelings, overwhelmingly, come from your thoughts (and beliefs are just thoughts you stop questioning and hold).

So, solving feelings of failure come from understanding the thoughts you think, repeat and hold that create feelings of failure.

If your house is on fire the solution is not to build more house, it’s to put the fire out.

Please go read the entire article; it’s great.

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