What is defeat? Nothing but education; nothing but the first step to something better. – Wendell Phillips
“Boy, after that banana, you’re really screwed.”
“How are you ever going to come back from that banana?”
Defeat is just a word, like banana is just a word.
I hope my silly example showed you that words mean what we make them mean – what we allow them to mean.
Words have no definite, meaning, other than what we agree to.
So “defeat” can mean one has “lost,” but it doesn’t have to mean there’s nothing you can do, or that you’re bad, or stupid, or not good enough.
And it can mean that you had an experience that you can learn from, that you’ve learned one way not to do something, and that can be an (positive, helpful) example to others.
It’s up to you.