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Who Is Your Sun?

“And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth,‘You owe me.’ Look what happens with love like that. It lights up the sky.” – Rumi

We all have at least one “Sun” in our lives.

Who is it for you?

Let them know, by word and deed.

(Your) Philosophy is Fundamental

While folding laundry just now I had a powerful thought. I realized – not for the first time, certainly – that one’s philosophy is so, so important to quality of life and results.

In terms of “philosophy,” I am speaking of our personal philosophy: the set of beliefs we have about ourselves, others and what is possible.

I may seek to un-pack this a bit more over some coming posts, but suffice it to say that the ability to examine one’s philosophy, compare it to our results and previous aspirations and see where changes need to be made going forward is very important.

Further, the ability to make the necessary behavioral adjustments is the rare skill of human-kind.

It need not be so un-common though, this ability to see where our thoughts and habits disconnect from our (true, authentic) desires and make the necessary (sustained) adjustments.

Let us pledge to first acknowledge that our – largely hidden – philosophy impacts our life completely and deeply, and that (positive) changes are possible.

Choose Confidence

“People die of fright and live of confidence.” – Thoreau

I think Thoreau, among other things, was speaking of courage here.

Confidence is what results when courage (being afraid, but taking a reasonable risk anyway) is combined with purpose (the energy that comes from knowing what we want and why we want it).

Is courage blindly rushing ahead whenever one is afraid or fearful? Certainly not; but, if we’re honest with ourselves, rarely are the things that scare us truly scary.

I submit that when we move forward, confidently, we are truly living. And to exist in fear is to not actually live (and to, in effect, die… ).

Well-Being and Money

My well-being is independent of my bank account balance.

My sense of what is possible for me is independent of my bank account balance.

My willingness to do new things and learn is independent of my bank account balance.

 

I was inspired to write the above while reading a book written by one of my mentors. I know that a ready objection to any of the above statements is that it often feels like well-being, etc. is indeed dependent on one’s bank account balance. But it doesn’t have to be.

What I want is for those statements to get you thinking:

Thinking about what it is about how your life is arranged – nay, how your thinking is arranged – such that your well-being, your willingness to learn, your willingness to try new things or your sense of what’s possible is tied to your bank account balance.

My main point here is that (in the passage that sparked this post) my mentor was talking with people with lots of money, and yet they were still worried about money – and didn’t think they had the freedom they indeed had.

So, if you feel you don’t have enough money (and perhaps you don’t have as much as you could… ) or if you have lots of money and still feel poor, it’s in your head. Feeling wealthy is a (mental) choice and it makes little difference how much money you actually have. It’s a choice that starts with the thoughts you think (and repeat over time).

(Psst… a little secret, my research has shown that creating and sustaining feelings of wealth (i.e. being grateful for what you have) and being willing to go for what you truly want results in having more-than-enough money most of the time.)

Thoughts and the Masterpiece That Is You

“You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose your thoughts carefully, and you want to have fun with this, because you are the masterpiece of your own life.” – Joe Vitale

The truth is our thoughts are really, really important.

But, because it’s often hard for us – in practice, over time – to think positively and constructively, we give up on positive thinking as either “un-realistic” or “too hard.”

It’s not either though. With practice, we can manage our thoughts effectively and create a train-of-thought that is positive, constructive and realistic.

The keys are awareness and practice. Meditation is a tool/technology for creating and building awareness.

What matters is our intent in a meditation practice.

We must develop facility and skill in noticing our thoughts – not controlling them (which is impossible).

It might seem counter-intuitive, but by sitting quietly and focusing on our breath – and gently noticing, and releasing, thoughts as they enter our consciousness – we develop greater awareness (and less manic thinking… ). Most importantly, we are then able to manage our thoughts, our (dis)stress level and emotions much, much better.

So, creating ourselves, as a masterpiece, begins (and largely ends) with our thoughts: being aware of them, choosing them carefully and enjoying the process.

The first step is awareness – and a great first step in awareness is meditation.