“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” – Seth Godin
Pretty self-explanatory, but I’ll buttress the sentiment with what is arguably my personal motto* (borrowed from Viv Savage, the keyboard player in This Is Spinal Tap):
“Have a good time, all the time.”
Both quotes are genius – and all we need aspire to.
* Not always in deed, sometimes only in word, but always in spirit…
“If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system.” – William James
Another way of putting it is: worry is a prayer for what you don’t want.
To be sure, feelings of grief, loss and mourning have their time and place – and not grieving in a healthy way is harmful – but we often spend too much time and energy thinking about what we don’t want.
Time spent thinking about what we don’t want – outside of small amounts of considering risk and contingencies – is time wasted, pure and simple.
At any given moment we have a choice: think about what we want, and move towards it; or think about about something else (and not move towards what we want).
Practice choosing better. Move towards what you want.
“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you are riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!” – Bob Marley
Something I always like to remind myself (and anyone who will listen) of is that it is much better to run towards love, harmony and gratitude than it is to flee anything. (Not to knock Bob Marley’s words, but I think he’d agree, if we could ask ‘im.)
What do you think?
“The key is not to prioritize what is on the schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey
The critical bit here is you must know your priorities to schedule them.
Not: what’s demanding your attention from moment-to-moment, or the pressing thing, or what you want right now because you think it’ll make you feel better/safe/secure/relaxed, but what matters to you – what you want your life to be about.
Oh! Do you know what matters to you?
You probably do, in general terms, but do you know what your priorities look like in six months, or a year, or five years? Those are goals.
What are your goals?
Now you have some work to do, don’t you? You have some serious thinking to do.
Unless, of course, you sit down regularly – by yourself and with the ones you are closest to – and review your values, what you want to preserve, what you want to create in life and create plans to make those things real.
“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” – Henry David Thoreau
I love this quote because it reminds us that there is no such thing as something-for-nothing.
Whether it be money, time or character, we trade something precious for every result we create in our lives.
When we embrace this reality and live accordingly, we can live lives of clarity, peace, effectiveness and happiness.